If the inner voice inside of us is constantly sending us negative messages and pulling us down, filling our hearts with negative, self defeating thoughts, that end up sabotaging our lives, then it's time to change the inner voice inside of us.

Our inner voice can be a good and positive influence on us that can open doors for us, or it can be a bad negative influence that ruins our lives.  The voice inside us is constantly sending and repeating certain ideas and messages over and over, those messages are what shapes how we we think, how we feel, how we view ourselves and the world around us.

Now depending on what those messages are, and what our inner voice says to us, it will determine what we do, the choices we make, and how we react when we face challenges or when our lives gets turned upside down, inside out.

Everyone on the planet without exception at some point in their life is going to face some kind of a challenge that will test them to the very core of their heart and soul, it may test their honesty, their loyalty, or their integrity, it may test their faith and their resiliency which is their ability to bounce back after tragedy or a trauma strikes deep at their heart.

Since life is unpredictable, tragedy and disaster can strike any of us or someone we love at any moment in our lives. For some it will be a make it or break it moment, that will determine the kind of person they really are, and what they are made of. No one is immune to heartache and misery. It  affects everyone, young or old, no one, is too young and no one is too old, no one is too rich or too poor. No matter who you are or where you come from, you will experience some kind of pain, we all will.

When they face problems, no matter how serious or how very painful they are, they refuse to let them break their spirit and beat them down, they refuse to let it paralyze and cripple them, or stop them from living and enjoying life. They see their situation as a challenge or a dare, as test of will and strength.

It doesn't seem to matter whether they are facing a terminal life threating illness like cancer or a terrible disease that leaves them scared or disfigured, or an accident that has left them crippled, maimed or paralyzed, it doesn't seem to matter if they love have suffered some deep emotional trauma, nothing seems to phase them. We don't know whether to hug them or slap them.

So what's their secrete? What do they have that we don't have? The short answer is Nothing. Then why; do we always seem to come away from our challenges bruised, damaged, injured and wounded or sad and heartbroken, when they emerge happy and positive?

How, do they hold it together even when their lives are falling apart? Are they stronger, better or smarter then we are? Of course not. Then why? First off all, they are imperfect people, with flaws just like we are, they feel pain and heartache just like we do, they have the same feelings and emotions that we do.

The difference, is their attitude toward life. They are not more special then we are, they are not super human, they are just as vulnerable and fragile as we are. Again that only thing that makes them different is their attitude, that's it in a nutshell.

Their secrete, is how they think, and how they choose to face their problems. It's their attitude, their frame of mind, the way they think, their out look and their perspective on life. It is how they approach their problems, their troubles and the challenges in their life.

They are confident and positive, they never stop searching for the answers and solutions to their problems, they know that it is just a  matter of time before they find one. They see the obstacles and hurdles in their life as a challenge, and they are always up for a challenge. Challenges sharpens their skills and hones their talents and abilities. It gives them a chance to learn, to develop and grow, to adapt and improve and to reach their full potential, it is a chance to test themselves. That is the reason, they never stop smiling and grinning in spite of the pain. That is how they stay so happy no matter what happens.

Since at some time and point in our lives, we can all expect to feel pain, heartache or face some kind of a devastating blow, the only real question that we have to ask ourselves is, how, will we face and handle the agony, the pain, the misery and the heartache that comes with being human?

Have you ever noticed that some people no matter what they go through, no matter how much they suffer, and no matter how bad things get in their lives, they always seem to be bubbly, cheerful,  full of life happy and positive no matter what?

Very little seems to phase them or get to them, it takes a lot to ruffle their feathers, or get them riled up, they seem to take everything in stride. It seems that they are always able find something good and positive in everything, good or bad. If we could only find a way to capture their joy, their enthusiasm, their passion for life and their optimism and bottle it up and sell it, we would be the richest people on earth.